It should be obvious that there are basic differences between being in love or just obsessed. Sadly, that is not always the case. Many people find themselves in relationships that they feel are loving when, in reality, it is an unhealthy obsession. Even when these people are faced with the facts, they often refuse to admit that they’re more obsessed than in love. In fact, you may be one of those women who is obsessed than in love. If you haven’t gone completely round the bend, following are some signs that you may be obsessed rather than in love:
You flake on responsibilities because of a chance that you’ll have of running into the object of your obsession. This includes missing work, school or other important appointments because he said he MIGHT call you, or there is the off chance that if you stay in a certain location long enough, he’ll come in. If you’re blowing off commitments just on the chance that you’ll run into this guy, you should consider yourself to be in serious trouble. When you miss commitments just because of your obsession, you’re only going to be sorry later in life when you don’t even remember this guy’s name.
You miss out on things that you love doing just so that you can be available in case the guy you’re obsessed with decides he has time to call you or wants to see you. What you’re actually doing is putting your life on hold for another person. Now, this may be fine if you’re in a serious relationship or are married, but when this person has done nothing to show you that you mean much to him, it makes no sense for you to rearrange your life for him. You’re only missing out on a lot of fun by doing so.
Your friendships are taking a back seat to your obsession. When you’re obsessed with a guy you’re dating or one that you WANT to date, you’ll tend to ignore your friends in favor of being available for this guy even when he hasn’t called or made plans with you. Eventually, you’ll start driving your friends away from you because they understand that you don’t care much about them now.
If you notice any of these signs within yourself, please take note how far you’ve fallen down the Rabbit Hole. None of these things are even remotely normal. You’re not meant to stop living your life just in CASE some guy decides to give you a call or suddenly shows up to take you to dinner. If it’s necessary for you to always be available on the off chance that he’ll call or come by, then it is imperative that you get some help in overcoming your obsession. This is something that could ruin your entire life if you allow it. That is why you need to do everything possible to move past this obsession and involve yourself in a healthy relationship with someone that wants to be with you.
One of the worst things you can do is hook up with someone and then set about trying to change him. This usually comes about because you were attracted to certain parts of a guy such as his looks or his sense of humor or intelligence. Anything that is not so appealing to you are things that you figure you can take care of once youíve snagged him, and that is something that cannot be further from the truth. When you take on someone to have relationship with, you take him as he is. There ís really no other choice in the matter because any changing that you attempt to do with him is just going to push him away from you. Besides, when youíre looking for someone to love, you most likely donít go around picking someone out because he looks good. Starting with a shell is never a good idea. You find someone that you're drawn to for various reasons and not just because he ís hot.
In fact, the old adage of not judging a book by its cover also applies when choosing the men you like. He may look awesome on the outside but have a purely black soul on the inside. Sadly, It is not unusual for beauty and evil to reside in the same body. So while he may have the face of an angel, that doesn't mean he has the heart of one. On the other hand, when you meet someone that draws your attention, take mental notes of the things you like about him. If the list is long enough, you may want to pursue this a bit. The one thing you do not want to do is go into things thinking that the few things you may not like about the guy are things that you can fix. If you're attracted to him as he is, you're going to have to accept the rest of him, too. Also, consider that youíre not so perfect, either. There may be things about you that men would love to change but they donít try because the rest of you is rather endearing. Actually, it is women that tend to try to change men more so than the other way around. Men aren't that interested in swapping out things on their women. The exceptions would be male agents in charge of models or actresses, and then the changes are usually superficial ones.
The point is that when you meet someone that you like, take him at face value. Don't look at him and think instantly of all the ways that you can mold him into your perfect man. It rarely ever works out. On top of that, while you may be able to accomplish the changes you want, itís quite possible that youíll be the only happy one in the relationship. When men are forced to change against their will, theyíre usually not very happy, and if youíre content with being happy no matter what it takes from your partner, then youíre a rather self-centered individual that needs to do some changing as well.
Are you married? If you are, you likely love your husband. With that said, love isn’t always enough to keep a relationship going strong. Intimacy is very important to having a strong, happy, and healthy relationship.
How is your life in the bedroom? Do you think that your sex and intimacy can be improved? If so, you may be nervous about discussing the subject with your husband. After all, your husband may wrongly get the impression that they don’t satisfy you anymore. If you are interested in improving your intimacy with your husband, there are still a number of other, different approaches that you can take. A few of these approaches are touched on below.
1 – Date
If you and your husband have been married for a while, there is a good chance that you haven’t gone out on a date in a while. Many married couples get to a point in their relationship that is commonly called “the comfort zone.” This zone is not one that you want to be in, as your relationship may feel more like a friendship. To prevent this from happening, ask your husband out on a date.
Although many wives believe that their husbands should do the date asking, you sometimes have to take hold of the situation yourself. Now may be one of those times. Choose an activity that is romantic, such as a romantic comedy for a movie or a nice restaurant. This can help to spark a little bit of romance and passion in your relationship, which may lead to better and closer intimacy at home.
2 – Show Romantic Gestures
When it comes to “wowing,” in a relationship, women sometimes think that men should do it. You will also want to “wow,” your husband, like you did the first time that you met. One of the easiest ways to do so is by performing a number of romantic gestures. When out shopping with your husband, grab their hand and hold it. When walking by them in the house, give them a quick kiss. Sending a love note to work with them is another romantic gesture that you may want to try.
3 – Be Sexy and Seductive
If your marriage enters into the above mentioned comfort zone, sex and intimacy may seem like a thing of the past. If you do have sex, it may seem more like a responsibly, a chore, or even work. To help reduce these feelings, be sexy and seductive. Do not wait for your husband to initiate sex and do not ask if your husband is up for it first, just get right down to business. Strip for your husband or simply just remove their clothes. Snuggle next to them on the couch and just start massaging their whole body. You may be surprised just how easy and effective it is to be sexy and seductive.
4 – Be Spontaneous
As it was previously stated, do not ask your husband if he wants to have sex and do not wait for him to start. Instead, take matters into your own hands. Whether you start with a little bit of foreplay or jump right into the intercourse, do so. Your husband should like the surprise. Also, remember that being spontaneous involves having sex at different times of the day, as well as in different locations of the house.
5 – Offer to Experiment In the Bedroom
To improve sex and intimacy it is important to know that a change can do you good. You may want to suggest to your husband that you experiment in the bedroom or take them up on their suggestion to do so. Remember that experimenting in the bedroom doesn’t have to mean getting an additional sex partner or doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable. A new sex position may be just what your relationship needs.
As you can see, there are a number of easy ways that you can go about improving your intimacy with your husband. So what are you waiting for? Get started today.
Are you in a relationship? If you are, are you pleased with the amount of sex and intimacy that you are receiving? Are you unsure? For many men and women, this question is a lot harder to answer than it looks.
If you are unsure as to whether or not your sex life is good, it may be time for you to find out? Why because if you are pleased with the amount of intimacy that you receive, you should be sure to tell your partner on occasion. Doing so can help to improve your relationship. On the other hand, if you are not pleased with the level of intimacy received, it may be time for you to make a change, like experimenting in the bedroom.
So do you have a good sex life? To help you get an accurate answer to that question, five signs that your sex life may need improving are outlined below.
Sign #1 – You Find Sex Boring
Unfortunately, many couples, especially those in long-term relationships, get to a certain point where sex just isn’t fun anymore. Does it seem more like work or a chore to you? Being intimate with your partner should not seem like a responsibly that you are required to fulfill. Instead, it should be fun and exciting.
Do you reject being intimate with your partner? Do you put off going to bed with them in fear of being intimate? If you do, your sex life may need an improvement or a change.
Sign #2 – You Are Left Unsatisfied
If and when you do get intimate with your partner, do you achieve maximum pleasure? If not, your sex life may be in serious trouble. This is most often the case with women. Some women find it more difficult to achieve maximum pleasure in the bedroom. But, know that it is possible. You may need to offer suggestions to your partner or guide them. Whatever you do, just be sure to take action right away. A relationship where only one party is pleased, is likely to fail.
Sign #3 – Sex Feels Like a Responsibility
As it was previously stated, being intimate with your partner should not seem like work or a responsibility that you must fulfill. If it does, it is time for you to change. Be spontaneous. Initiate sex yourself, as opposed to waiting for your partner to do so. Spice up your intimacy by experimenting in the bedroom with a new position or simply just have relations at a different time and place. Whatever approach you do take, be sure to do something. Do not let an otherwise healthy relationship fail because sex is something that you would rather avoid.
Sign #4 – You Don’t Have It
To have a good sex life, you must first be having sex. Are you? If you are in a relationship, you should be. Whether you get intimate with your partner on a daily basis or even just once a week, this closeness is important to your relationship and not just in the physical sense.
If you are currently not in a relationship, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have or not get the opportunity to experience intimacy and closeness with another adult. Take action to start feeling wanted, needed, and loved today. This may involve using an online dating website or just visiting a bar with a bunch of your friends.
Sign #5 – Your Relationship Is Failing
Do you and your partner spend most of your time arguing? If so, your relationship may be in serious trouble. Despite arguing about a topic not related to intimacy, such as money or work, did you know that your lack of intimacy may be to blame? Couples who are happy inside the bedroom are likely to be happy outside of it as well. The two should go hand in hand.
So do you have a happy and healthy sex life? If not, remember that there are a number of steps that you can take to make an improvement in your levels of satisfaction.
Are you married? If you are, are you also a parent? If you are married and a parent, how is your sex life? Depending on the age of your children and the size of your family, it might not be great. Many parents wish that they had a better level of intimacy with their partner and on more occasions. If you are one of those individuals, there are a number of steps that you will want to take.
When it comes to intimacy in a relationship, it is important to remember that more than the bedroom and sex is and should be involved. Does your intimacy only get started when you climb into bed? If so, there may lay the problem.
If you are a parent, you will want to consider using the service of a babysitter. This will enable you and your spouse to get out of the house and enjoy time alone. In fact, you can even have a “real,” date. Go to dinner and a movie with your spouse. Unfortunately, many married couples find themselves entering into a comfort zone that results in their relationship feeling more like a friendship than a marriage. Do not let your relationship get to this point. Dating is a nice and easy way to prevent that from happening.
In addition to hiring a babysitter, rely on a trusted friend or family member. What is nice about taking this approach is the comfort level. Instead of picking a babysitter out of a phone book, you are entrusting the care of your children into someone that you know and trust. This alone can result in you having a better time on a date. You may also feel more comfortable leaving your children with a trusted friend or relative overnight, as opposed to an unknown babysitter. What does this mean? It means that in addition to enjoying a traditional date, you may also enjoy a nice, sexual night of privacy, possibly at a nice hotel.
In keeping with childcare that will allow you and your spouse to spend some romantic, intimate, and quality time together, consider approaching other parents. Do you know the parents of your children’s friends? If you do, consider making a monthly arrangement with them. Let them keep your kids for one night and you can do the same for them. This approach is nice, as you are likely to feel comfortable living your children in the care of another parent. Also, remember that all parents find it difficult to seek privacy and intimacy. You may be doing the other set of parents a huge favor.
As important as dating is and can be to your relationship, be realistic. Not every night can be a date night. With that said, there are still ways that you can be romantic and intimate with your spouse at home. For example, sneak in a few hugs and kisses here and here. When your wife is cooking dinner, walk up to her, rub her back, and plant a kiss on her. When your husband is walking past you, stop him and give him a quick kiss. A simple kiss is enough to show your partner that you care and want to be intimate with him, without making your children, who may be watching, feel uncomfortable or out of place.
Another unique and creative way to keep the romance and intimacy alive when you may be unable to have sex or go on a date is the use of text messages. Do you and your spouse have and use cell phones? If you do, send them a sexy and seductive text message. Let them know that you can’t wait until they arrive home. Even if your partner is sitting across the room from them, send them a quick message. If you do not own or use a cell phone, know that a handwritten love note can be just as effective.
As you can see, there are a number of ways that you, as parents, can still have a happy and healthy sex life. Implement a few of these steps to help keep your relationship and its romance alive and well.
Are you married? If so, you likely love your wife, right? Despite a deep and intense love for your wife, you may still want to see an improvement in your intimacy. After all, what man doesn’t want good sex?
If you want to improve your intimacy with your wife, it is important to know that you have a number of different options. Unfortunately, many men automatically start think of the bedroom. Yes, you do want to “wow,” your wife in the bedroom, but that is not all that sex and intimacy is about. In fact, that is where many marriages go wrong. Too much focus is placed on the sex or the lack of it.
To help you properly improve your intimacy with your wife, please continue reading on. A few easy to implement, yet successful approaches are highlighted below for your convenience.
1 – Date Her
How long have you been married? If you have been married for a number of years now, do you honestly remember when your last “real,” date was. Unfortunately, many men underestimate the power of a date. You will not want to make this mistake. If you opt just for the sex, your wife may start to feel like it is her responsibility to please you and this is not how a relationship should work.
To not only improve your satisfaction in the bed, but to improve your wife’s satisfaction, take her out on a date. Many times, getting out of the house is enough to bring new excitement into a relationship. For the best level of success, choose a romantic date theme, such as a fancy dinner, a romantic movie, or a night at a nice hotel.
2 – Compliment Her
When is the last time that you have paid your wife a truly nice and unique compliment? If it has been a while, it is time for you to start again. Is your wife wearing a new outfit? Has she recently started a weight loss plan? Did your wife get her hair cut? If so, be sure to compliment her. Complimenting your wife on her appearance will increase her self-confidence. This, in turn, can improve experiences in the bedroom.
As important as it is to compliment your wife on her appearance, it is also important to remember to compliment her on other areas of your relationship. Do you notice that the house is clean? Has your wife prepared a nice dinner? If so, thank her for the job well done. This will not only help to improve your relationship in general, but it can have an impact on your experiences in the bedroom.
3 – Seduce Her
What is sex like in your home? Does it occur like clockwork? Do you actually take the time to ask your wife if she wants to have sex? If so, try to refrain from doing so. Yes, you may be rejected, due to a headache or being tired, but why not take the chance? Be spontaneous. Seduce your wife. Make her want to have sex with you.
4 – Fulfill Her Fantasies
In keeping with seducing your wife, let her know that you want to fulfill her fantasies. It may take your wife a few times to open up about what she likes or fantasizes about sexually, but the information will likely come out soon. Give it your all to fulfill your wife’s sexual fantasies. It is also important to note that afterwards is the perfect time to share your fantasies and sexual desires with your wife. In end, you may all end up being much more pleased.
As you can see, there are a number of different ways that you can go about improving the intimacy in your relationship. Please remember, however, that you want to get started in someplace other than the bedroom. Sex in a marriage is about more and should be more than just the act itself. Taking the time to date and compliment your wife will more than pay off in the end.
Are you in a relationship that seems as if it is stalled in the bedroom? If so, your first thought may be to terminate the relationship. But, what if your relationship is long-term? What if you are married? What if you really do love your partner? What steps should you take then?
When it comes to being unhappy in the bedroom, it is important to know that ending a marriage or a relationship should only be used as a last approach. Instead, you will want to take steps to spice things up. Doing so may improve more than just your intimacy, but it may do wonders for your relationship in general.
As nice as it is to hear that you can and should spice things up and in the bedroom, you may be unsure as to how you should proceed. If that is the case, please continue reading on. Below, four easy ways that you can spice things up in the bedroom, are covered.
1 – Engage in Foreplay
When you do have sex, what happens? Do you and your partner get right down to business? If you do, that may be a huge problem. Unfortunately, many couples do not realize that intimacy is more than just about having sex. It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship. If you rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good chance that it will actually fail.
If you and your partner don’t already engage in foreplay, start doing so. Also, remember that foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Call your lover, send a text message, or a handwritten note expressing your desires to get intimate with them later on.
2 – Be Spontaneous
When you want to have sex, what do you do? If you actually take the time to ask your partner if they want to be intimate with you, you may be doing more harm than good. Asking first can make being intimate seem more like a chore than something that should bring you pleasure. The next time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask first. Just lead your partner there. In fact, who needs a bedroom?
Know that being spontaneous is about more than not talking about sex first. Ways that you can be spontaneous with your partner is to have sex at a different time, date, or place.
3 – Talk About Your Fantasies
One of the biggest reasons why couples have problems with sex is because one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled. If that is the case with you? Does your partner know what you like or what you want to get out of being intimate? If not, it is time for you to let them know.
Be sure to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires. What would you like to try in the bedroom? In addition to expressing your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, be sure to let your partner do the same. Remember that both of you should walk away from an intimate encounter pleased.
4 – Experiment in the Bedroom
Another one of the easy ways that you can spice up things in the bedroom is by experimenting. When doing so, you may be pleased with all of your options. For starters, you can try a new sex position. This may not only lead to extra pleasure, but fun and excitement. Sex toys, romantic or pornographic videos, and role playing are other good ideas for experimenting in the bedroom.
Remember that experimenting in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy, but be sure to use your best judgment. It may be a wise decision to first discuss making changes with your partner, as you will not want to make him or her feel uncomfortable.
So there you have it! You know have a few ideas on how you can go about spicing up things in the bedroom. So what are you waiting for? Get started today.